If you’re the parent of an adolescent, one of the keys to effectively caring for your child, especially if her normal adolescent anguish is compounded by real emotional problems, is to effectively care for yourself. For most adolescents, the path to adulthood is twisty, bumpy and, well, crazy. Literally. In fact, mental health professionals are reluctant and, in some cases, forbidden to assign certain diagnoses to teenagers since it’s nearly impossible to separate what’s mental illness from what’s just adolescence. Sometimes the symptoms are exactly the same! That’s why it’s so incredibly hard to be an adolescent. And that’s also why it’s so hard to parent one. Following are some suggestions for building up your own resources so that you have the strength, calm, and support necessary to effectively parent an adolescent.